Hot Doug Before He Was Hot

For anyone living in or around Chicago and not under a rock, it’s hard to escape the fact that the most famous hot dog stand in America, Hot Doug’s, is closing today.  BOOM.  Just like that, Doug Sohn is walking away from a sure thing.  He is the Michael Jordan of purveyors of encased meat, the standard bearer of leave ’em wanting more.

More power to him.  I wish him well.  I like Doug.

We first met in my 20s when I was head over heels in love with a close friend of his.  It was embarrassing, really, but that’s a different story for a different blog post.  Word to the wise, never date a musician.  Like ever. You’re welcome, young women of America!

But way back when, our mutual friend organized a road trip to all things Elvis in Memphis and Tupelo, Mississippi.  I was way out of my league with these folks, who were super hip and grungy and lived in Wicker Park when it was still full of tenements, but love is blind, right?  And so, I went.  It was awesome, actually.  And despite my social awkwardness and insecurities, I had a great time.

Elvis was introduced to me on that trip and I’ve been a fan ever since.  How did I not appreciate Elvis before that?!

Me trying to pass with some folks who are much more cool than I, Hot Doug being one of them.
Me trying to pass with some folks who are much more cool than I, Hot Doug being one of them.

Doug and I were in a group of eight or ten.  Some of them were established musicians — Cath Carroll and Santiago Durango, anyone?  I didn’t know them either, but they both exuded cool.  Like serious cool.  I was this dork drunk on unrequited love who lived in a studio apartment with a twin bed.

Doug was always kind and approachable when I saw him.  He was cool without being oppressive about it, you know?  He was easy to talk to and didn’t get that bored expression on his face if we found ourselves sitting next to one another.  I like cool and easy and Doug was both those things. He still is.

This was the 90s, pre-cell phone and digital cameras.  At the time, Doug was in culinary school.  A few weeks after the trip, he hosted the road trip crew at his apartment so that we could all trade copies of the photos we had taken.  Can you even imagine that today?!  Oy, the technology.

Anyway.  Doug made a feast for us, featuring a buffet of Elvis’ favorite foods — and yes, fried peanut butter and banana sandwiches are that delicious.

Me and Hot Doug hanging out on Elvis' front porch in Tupelo, Mississippi, looking like an old married couple.
Me and Doug hanging out on Elvis’ front porch in Tupelo, Mississippi, looking like an old married couple.

That was almost twenty years ago now.  Good God.

In that time, I got over my unhealthy and counterproductive infatuation with unavailable musicians and headed to grad school, marriage, motherhood, and Cancerville.  Doug graduated culinary school and created the phenomenon that is Hot Doug’s.  You’ve got to hand it to him, he has cultivated the reputation of the humble hot dog to never seen before heights.  Restaurant ownership is a tough, tough gig, and Doug has done it with smarts and a fine balance of gravitas and joie de vivre.  All while closing at 4pm.

I missed the Hot Doug’s frenzy since he announced he would be shuttering last May.  My husband’s office window looks over Hot Doug’s and after the spring announcement, he would come home and report on the length of the lines.  We always meant to go one last time when things calmed down, but things haven’t calmed down.

Inevitably, when I did make it in to Hot Doug’s, I was always met with the same cool and easy Doug that was so kind to me on that Elvis road trip so long ago.  He never failed to ask about the family, the kids, the husband.

When he learned our daughter had died of cancer, he somehow managed to show compassion and sincerity while still taking my order and moving that line along.  And he never ever charged me full price.  Or raised an eyebrow when I ordered, as I always did, ketchup on my char dog.

As my Dad would say, Doug Sohn is a gentleman and a scholar.

Doug taking a moment to pose with my son, long lines be damned.  A true mensch.
Doug taking a moment to pose with my son, long lines be damned. A true mensch.

 

Modern Day MS: A New Resource for the MS Community

I would be hard pressed to find another person more excited than myself to use a blog platform for a health awareness campaign.  Today, that person just might be my blogging friend, Beth, who writes at Ups and Downs of a Yoga Mom.

Beth is awesome.  A calm island in a sea of blogging chaos.  She is positive, supportive, good natured, generous, and gentle — things I love in friends and bloggers alike.

I was worried for her two years ago when she bravely announced her new diagnosis of Multiple Sclerosis (MS) to her readers.  The symptoms were scary — terrifying, really, for someone with a history and awareness of brain tumors like myself.  Beth approached her MS in her writing with the same calm manner she approached most of her topics.  I choose hope for her.

Two years later, frustrated with the lack of current information and resources she and other folks diagnosed with MS needed, Beth did what Beth does — she opted to create it herself.

The result is her new campaign, Modern Day MS, with a new web site that goes live today, and active profiles on the Facebook and the Twitter.

Modern Day MS

The website is fantastic.  If you or someone you know has an MS diagnosis, head over there directly.  There are links to news stories and resources about the disease, first person accounts of having MS (Beth is very open to guest bloggers, so connect with her if you want to tell your story, too), a Q and A section, and a page dedicated to families and caregivers of someone with MS.  It is a crisp site, easy to use and navigate, and feels like a community as well as a resource.

The tagline for this new venture is “You are not alone,” something that Beth felt herself soon after diagnosis and the days leading up to it. While I’ve never been through a health crisis myself, I’ve cared for family members who have.  The isolation of living with chronic illness is one of the most difficult things to cope with, after the shock of diagnosis wears off.  Not everyone understands how or why a change in health status impacts day-to-day life.

Beth knows this.  And having missed the resources she herself looked for, she went and created it for others in her community.  See, that is what I love about Beth.  So many strong women I know, despite whatever crosses they bear, understand the importance of community and the comfort it brings.

If you have MS, if you know of someone with MS, please look into the Modern Day MS community.  It will help.

 

Cool People I Know: State Representative Ron Sandack

This is the first in an occasional series I will run, profiling interesting folks I know doing interesting things in the world.  The common denominator between all of them is how much I admire and respect the many Good Things they do.

Photo courtesy of Ron Sandack, who actually had hair when I knew him back in the day.
Photo courtesy of Ron Sandack, who actually had hair when I knew him back in the day.

Ron Sandack and I met way, way back in 1993.  Think Gin Blossoms on the radio and Seinfeld on the TV.  Justin Timberlake had just signed on to the New Mickey Mouse Club.  Mom jeans were in style, minus the irony.

I had just been hired by a Chicago law firm as their receptionist.  Ron Sandack was one of the associates.  Within a few months, he would officially become my first ‘real’ boss in the ‘real’ world when I became his secretary.

While still practicing private law, Ron Sandack has served as Mayor of Downers Grove, a Chicago suburb, appointed an Illinois State Senator, and is now up for re-election as a State Representative.  I had no idea that the guy I was hanging out with during my 20s would turn into such an upright citizen, but I should have known.  Ron was always one of those folks you just know is a good guy.

You are very clear about the distinction between being a politician and being a public servant.  Please explain the difference.

I try and emphasize the difference through my actions even more than my words because, as James Freeman Clark put it, “a politician thinks of the next election and a public servant thinks of the next generation.”  This goes back to my time as Mayor of Downers Grove. Then it was all about good local stewardship through good governance and responsible leadership. So when I was appointed to the Illinois Senate, while I was humbled with the opportunity, I recognized the importance of the appointment and decided not to accept the offered pension and health care benefits.  I knew part time elected officials should not receive benefits reserved for full time employees and felt like a leadership moment was sort of thrust upon me then. Since that time, twenty-two of my colleagues in the legislature have followed suit and declined these benefits. Together we now have the ability to lead, unencumbered, on pension reform.  My focus on leading by example is not always the most popular path, but I believe it is the best path to ensure a stronger, brighter future for Illinois. I serve to protect the future of our families, not to collect a pension.

What does the average voter not know about governance?

If you have time to watch the news, you get national and local news, but what you don’t get is State news.  Springfield does a lot of things no one knows about.  There is a culture created through isolation that breeds indifference and a status quo mentality.  That sets up State government for slow change at best.  With one party with all of the numbers, the gridlock is out of control.  It frustrates the heck out of me.  Lots of folks on both sides of the aisle care deeply about this State, but things aren’t happening fast enough. 

You are very active in social media – Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, even Instagram.  How did that happen and how does it support your work as a legislator?

I am in real time with the voter about government issues.  Like I said, Springfield is isolated and out of the news.  I use my platform – and I have no handlers, just me with my device – to communicate openly and transparently with my constituents.  Sometimes even from the House floor during votes.  The typos kill me!  Basically, I engage in a thinking process and critical dialogue with the voters and my constituents through social media all the time.  I wanted transparency, and social media is a great tool for that.  It connects me with what constituents are concerned about with no filters. 

Photo courtesy of Amy Goray Photography.  Ron is a proud Illini.
Photo courtesy of Amy Goray Photography. Ron is a proud Illini.

You’ve demonstrated political courage by voting against party lines for things like immigration reform and same sex marriage. (Ron was one of three Republicans who crossed party lines to vote in favor of Illinois marriage equality in November 2013.)  What, if any, fallout have you seen with these choices?  

Focusing on doing the right thing (for our State) as opposed to the safe thing (for re-election) is truly a liberating feeling – and produces, I think, better policy results. The process and discussion that went into both debates was interesting and certainly took on a life of their own at times. In the end, both issues were weighed heavily on the merits of doing what is best for Illinois families. I listened, deliberated, discussed and repeated. Often. Ultimately I voted my constituency and my conscience.  To that end, not everyone agreed with my vote(s).  Some have loudly vocalized their support or dislike and others have quietly encouraged or disagreed.  With votes such as these I remember Ronald Reagan’s 80% rule: “The person who agrees with you 80% of the time is a friend and an ally – not a 20% traitor.”  Luckily, I have lots of 80% friends and allies.

Who is your political hero?

I have many and they are very different.  Abraham Lincoln is at the top of my list. Being in Springfield, one can’t escape his palpable presence, still. And I think that’s a very good thing.

What or who inspires you?

I am motivated to push on by my family, my friends, my belief that I can offer something different, but helpful, to Illinois. I am not the standard issue legislator. I do not need this “job” and am perfectly happy returning to my previous life as a private citizen. 

There are lots of voters and people who are fed up with politicians and don’t/won’t see a distinction with public service.  How do you see what you see, up close and personal, and still stay in the game?  Basically, what keeps you motivated to work so hard to create the change you believe needs to happen?

Without a doubt there are numerous times during a legislative year when it gets hard not to get discouraged.  Thankfully, my friends, family, neighbors and constituents have been a wealth of support and encouragement. When I am home I am regularly stopped at the grocery store or at the dry cleaners and offered sincere words of encouragement. Those moments truly help me. After a legislative week when I return to my family, I am reminded why I continue to fight for what is right. We cannot idly stand by while our children’s futures are in jeopardy.  I want my kids to have the same opportunities I had — access to a good education, job opportunities, and a safe place to live and raise their families. 

You can follow Ron Sandack easily via Facebook or Twitter (22K tweets and counting!).  Ron is up for reelection in the 81st District House seat in the March 18th Republican primary.  I’d say vote early and often (it’s the Chicago way, right?), but that would be wrong, so don’t do that, but do vote in the primary if you live in district.  And visit his election webpage or email him at rsandack@gmail.com.  He really does take that transparency stuff seriously.

Photo courtesy of Ron Sandack
Photo courtesy of Ron Sandack

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