Cool People I Know: State Representative Ron Sandack

This is the first in an occasional series I will run, profiling interesting folks I know doing interesting things in the world.  The common denominator between all of them is how much I admire and respect the many Good Things they do.

Photo courtesy of Ron Sandack, who actually had hair when I knew him back in the day.
Photo courtesy of Ron Sandack, who actually had hair when I knew him back in the day.

Ron Sandack and I met way, way back in 1993.  Think Gin Blossoms on the radio and Seinfeld on the TV.  Justin Timberlake had just signed on to the New Mickey Mouse Club.  Mom jeans were in style, minus the irony.

I had just been hired by a Chicago law firm as their receptionist.  Ron Sandack was one of the associates.  Within a few months, he would officially become my first ‘real’ boss in the ‘real’ world when I became his secretary.

While still practicing private law, Ron Sandack has served as Mayor of Downers Grove, a Chicago suburb, appointed an Illinois State Senator, and is now up for re-election as a State Representative.  I had no idea that the guy I was hanging out with during my 20s would turn into such an upright citizen, but I should have known.  Ron was always one of those folks you just know is a good guy.

You are very clear about the distinction between being a politician and being a public servant.  Please explain the difference.

I try and emphasize the difference through my actions even more than my words because, as James Freeman Clark put it, “a politician thinks of the next election and a public servant thinks of the next generation.”  This goes back to my time as Mayor of Downers Grove. Then it was all about good local stewardship through good governance and responsible leadership. So when I was appointed to the Illinois Senate, while I was humbled with the opportunity, I recognized the importance of the appointment and decided not to accept the offered pension and health care benefits.  I knew part time elected officials should not receive benefits reserved for full time employees and felt like a leadership moment was sort of thrust upon me then. Since that time, twenty-two of my colleagues in the legislature have followed suit and declined these benefits. Together we now have the ability to lead, unencumbered, on pension reform.  My focus on leading by example is not always the most popular path, but I believe it is the best path to ensure a stronger, brighter future for Illinois. I serve to protect the future of our families, not to collect a pension.

What does the average voter not know about governance?

If you have time to watch the news, you get national and local news, but what you don’t get is State news.  Springfield does a lot of things no one knows about.  There is a culture created through isolation that breeds indifference and a status quo mentality.  That sets up State government for slow change at best.  With one party with all of the numbers, the gridlock is out of control.  It frustrates the heck out of me.  Lots of folks on both sides of the aisle care deeply about this State, but things aren’t happening fast enough. 

You are very active in social media – Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, even Instagram.  How did that happen and how does it support your work as a legislator?

I am in real time with the voter about government issues.  Like I said, Springfield is isolated and out of the news.  I use my platform – and I have no handlers, just me with my device – to communicate openly and transparently with my constituents.  Sometimes even from the House floor during votes.  The typos kill me!  Basically, I engage in a thinking process and critical dialogue with the voters and my constituents through social media all the time.  I wanted transparency, and social media is a great tool for that.  It connects me with what constituents are concerned about with no filters. 

Photo courtesy of Amy Goray Photography.  Ron is a proud Illini.
Photo courtesy of Amy Goray Photography. Ron is a proud Illini.

You’ve demonstrated political courage by voting against party lines for things like immigration reform and same sex marriage. (Ron was one of three Republicans who crossed party lines to vote in favor of Illinois marriage equality in November 2013.)  What, if any, fallout have you seen with these choices?  

Focusing on doing the right thing (for our State) as opposed to the safe thing (for re-election) is truly a liberating feeling – and produces, I think, better policy results. The process and discussion that went into both debates was interesting and certainly took on a life of their own at times. In the end, both issues were weighed heavily on the merits of doing what is best for Illinois families. I listened, deliberated, discussed and repeated. Often. Ultimately I voted my constituency and my conscience.  To that end, not everyone agreed with my vote(s).  Some have loudly vocalized their support or dislike and others have quietly encouraged or disagreed.  With votes such as these I remember Ronald Reagan’s 80% rule: “The person who agrees with you 80% of the time is a friend and an ally – not a 20% traitor.”  Luckily, I have lots of 80% friends and allies.

Who is your political hero?

I have many and they are very different.  Abraham Lincoln is at the top of my list. Being in Springfield, one can’t escape his palpable presence, still. And I think that’s a very good thing.

What or who inspires you?

I am motivated to push on by my family, my friends, my belief that I can offer something different, but helpful, to Illinois. I am not the standard issue legislator. I do not need this “job” and am perfectly happy returning to my previous life as a private citizen. 

There are lots of voters and people who are fed up with politicians and don’t/won’t see a distinction with public service.  How do you see what you see, up close and personal, and still stay in the game?  Basically, what keeps you motivated to work so hard to create the change you believe needs to happen?

Without a doubt there are numerous times during a legislative year when it gets hard not to get discouraged.  Thankfully, my friends, family, neighbors and constituents have been a wealth of support and encouragement. When I am home I am regularly stopped at the grocery store or at the dry cleaners and offered sincere words of encouragement. Those moments truly help me. After a legislative week when I return to my family, I am reminded why I continue to fight for what is right. We cannot idly stand by while our children’s futures are in jeopardy.  I want my kids to have the same opportunities I had — access to a good education, job opportunities, and a safe place to live and raise their families. 

You can follow Ron Sandack easily via Facebook or Twitter (22K tweets and counting!).  Ron is up for reelection in the 81st District House seat in the March 18th Republican primary.  I’d say vote early and often (it’s the Chicago way, right?), but that would be wrong, so don’t do that, but do vote in the primary if you live in district.  And visit his election webpage or email him at rsandack@gmail.com.  He really does take that transparency stuff seriously.

Photo courtesy of Ron Sandack
Photo courtesy of Ron Sandack

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Raising Boys

I am the mother of two boys.  TWO BOYS.  This is, most of the time, almost incomprehensible to me.  I know nothing about boys.  Seriously.  I was afraid of them most of my childhood, except for my first best friend who was a boy.  He was awesome.  Hi, Allan!  I was crushed when Allan moved away.  Crushed.  I got over it and grew into a very socially awkward girl who always felt flustered around boys.  Still do.

And here I am the mom to two of them.

I worry about this sometimes.  I see the moms on my Facebook feed and they’re off to sports events all the time — baseball and soccer and football and hockey.  I’m bored to tears with sports.  If my boys get into sports, I’ll figure it out, I assume, right?  Sigh.

Maybe I’ll have the kind of boys that tend towards things like nature or architecture or urban planning.  Wouldn’t it be cool to have a son who geeked out on cities?  Does that even exist — city geek kids?  Surely it must.

I don’t know.

My fear of raising boys, honestly, comes from a place of stereotypes. Sports, superheroes, rough and tough wrestling.  How does the poem go?

What are little boys made of?
Slugs and snails
And puppy-dogs’ tails,
That’s what little boys are made of.

What are little girls made of?
Sugar and spice
And everything nice,
That’s what little girls are made of.

This little ditty was drilled into me during childhood.  I don’t like snails or slugs and am allergic to puppies.  But sugar and spice?  Yes, those things I like, I understand.  They’re ingredients, it’s simple, really.  And ‘everything nice?’  Who doesn’t like nice?  I love nice!

Ugh.

Stereotypes are never a good thing.  They can be instructive, of course, but you can’t feed into them for your sole information source.  And if I buy too much into the stereotypes of boys, well, I’m doomed.  If I can vehemently disagree and understand that being a girl is not all about princess frou frou and pink and purple that the marketers try and tell us it is, logically, I have to embrace that being a boy is not all about superheroes and sports, either.

I do believe on some fundamental level that boys and girls are different.  Not better or worse, stronger or weaker, than one another, just different.  I may get reamed for this, but it’s science, you know?  Testosterone and estrogen result in different features in us humans.  I think we have hyped up those differences to the extremes with the way we, knowingly and unknowingly, genderize our kiddos, but they are still there.

Now this doesn’t mean that girls can’t be rough and tumble athletes and boys can’t be quiet and sensitive, but it does mean that, personally, as the mom to two boys, I think I am in for more of the rough and tumble than I have personally experienced in my own life to date.  I’ll be honest — that will be a challenge for me.  I am, you see, a dainty flower.

Today, driving home from school, I spied out of the corner of my eye my five year old son leaning over in the back seat.  At the next light I looked back and saw my boy, hand cupped beneath his mouth, drinking his own spit.  Happily and with pride.  Last week, he came home from school covered in mud, head to toe.  BAH!  This, I think, is my future in a nutshell — mud and spit.  Ha!

Here is the mud.  I will spare you the photo of the spit.
Here is the mud. I will spare you a photo of the spit.

I am a lucky woman, indeed.  But a lucky woman who needs to prepare herself for years of mud, spit, toots (see, I can’t even bring myself to say the F-A-R-T word — I hate that word), penis jokes, sweaty socks and the whole lot of it.  Imma start now, cause if drinking spit out of your own damn hand is any indication, I have much to learn about raising boys.

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2014 Oscar Fashion Commentary from a Middle Aged Mom

I’m back!  I had so much fun doing my middle aged mom commentary for the Golden Globes, I’m back for the Oscars, which is basically the Golden Globes for a select few 63 year old white men, something they like to call “The Academy.”  Pffft.  Even old white men like to see pretty ladies all gussied up.

This was a safe year for Oscar fashion.  I think the most risque thing was seeing Liza Minelli without a bra and Pharell Williams in short pants.  The trends were nudes (so many of the starlets looked like they were coming off a college art modeling class), bedazzled frocks, and dark lips.  Some of it worked, some of it didn’t — at least from this middle aged mom’s point of view.

So here goes, without further delay, my picks for the hits, the misses, the meh, and a few men thrown in for good measure.  Enjoy!

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